We all know that the average age to get married is the mid-20s. But people of all age find love and want to make a permanent commitment to their beloved. Is there one perfect age to say "I Do" or can a person follow their heart at any age? Can a person ever be too young or too old to get married?
When it comes to being too old, the answer is no. As long as both people are of sound mind, why shouldn't they have the chance to enjoy a romance as seniors? I know a woman who creates custom bridal gowns, and she says that one of the sweetest brides she ever made a gown for was a woman in her 80s. She had been widowed for many years, and met a man in a similar situation through a place where they both volunteered. This man was a true gentleman, and courted her properly; he even asked the widow's daughter for permission to propose to his sweetheart.
As for the elderly bride-to-be, she said she agreed to be remarried after so many years alone because she finally met a man who was not looking for "a nurse or a purse". This brings us to a key point that a marriage between people in their golden years will work best if the pair is on even footing. In other words, they both had their health and were financially secure, so they knew that the relationship was based on love, not need. And she made a truly beautiful bride in her custom blue wedding gown and elegant bridal jewelry.
The other question is not so easily answered. The short answer is yes, people certainly can be too young to make the lifelong commitment involved in a marriage. Don't look to your grandparents as examples of why a young marriage is fine; everyone got married younger a couple of generations ago, but people were typically more mature and had a firm belief that marriage was a long term commitment and were willing to put in the work to make it a success.
Readiness to marry is less a question of a particular age, perhaps, but one of the maturities of the potential bride and groom. That said, few people are truly mature before they have had time to live on their own, take responsibility for running a home, and gotten a little life experience. Statistics bear this out; couples who wait until their late 20s or early 30s to get married have a lower divorce rate than teen brides and grooms. So don't go rushing off to marry your high school sweetheart just yet.
Young men or women in their late teens or early 20s may be too inexperienced or immature to fully comprehend the responsibility of nurturing a marriage (actually that can be the case with people of any age!). A younger person who is considering marriage should take the time to evaluate what their expectations are of marriage and whether or not they are realistic. If you want to get married because you think it would be exciting to get all dressed up in a fabulous gown and sparkling bridal jewelry and feel like a princess for a day, it might be a good idea to wait a while.
A final piece of advice for young engaged couples is to opt for a long engagement. Both people should definitely be out of high school; finished with college would be even better. After all, if it is true love, the relationship will last and grow into something even better over the period of a long engagement. And besides, every bride and groom should be able to raise a toast at their wedding.